There is a notion among a certain section of the male populace that women do not communicate the way men do. They profess that all too often what women say rarely reflects their true desires or feelings. They maintain that often women will say things they don't mean in order to force a man to behave in a strong way though men see them as times to make her happy. These men complain that the way men talk is superior as there is little to no subtext and things are handled on the surface, out in the open.
The below list are commonly misinterpreted situations where a woman is attempting to communicate with her male partner and his paranoia takes over and clouds his understanding of the scenario.
1. Asking Him To Do Something
She asked you to get rid of your motorcycle. You did it. She stopped sleeping with you. Or she told you to stop seeing your friends. You agreed. She broke up with you. You can theorize about how she had some grand plan to use this request as a way to test your strength but that would be a rather manipulative move, a woman you should be glad to be rid of. More likely it's the *way* you got rid of your motorcycle that was the problem. Why did you have to use Craigslist you know how she gets about that. Also it's awkward having so many people call you to inquire about your ad you put in the paper because you know how she gets headaches so easily.
2. Giving Him Commands
When she tells you to shut up, it's not a trick to see if you will succumb to her will and thus likely to also be weak in the face of more dire situations. Women have times when they need a little quiet and just because these times seems to have proliferated once you were "together" does not mean they are just tests to measure your mettle. Do not overlook the manner in which you obey her commands, for this is crucial. Did you close your mouth and storm out of the room or did you stop speaking, give her a hug and take her for ice cream? I know it is upsetting afterward when she consistently refuses freaky sex stuff but a girl needs time to recover from earlier stunning displays of bedroom prowess, it's not because you are now a wimp in her eyes.
3. Picking a Fight With Him
She complains about you leaving the toilet seat up, you take it as one of those dreaded tests whereby she will try your inner man. Though it might seem like a passive-aggressive, deniable way to express her insecurity about herself and you, did you ever think she just might have a passion for proper lavatory etiquette? Yes, she could easily look before she sits but this is *your* house and she is your guest, is that all she means to you? Especially at night when turning on the light will exacerbate the incipient hangover she got from drinking your booze. You see how her toilet seat concerns might be real now?
4. Giving Him Suggestions
You should shave more, she says. The leading dating gurus will have you believe this is yet another test whereby she will test your allegiance to your self and your thoughts. That the way to "win" is by not doing as she says. It's true she loved your bearded self when you first started dating but things are different now. None of her girlfriend's men have beards and it makes for an awkward visual at dinner parties. Everyone else is Abercrombie and you are all 90s hipster, it just doesn't work sweetie. Plus you know as women get older they get more sensitive in regards to a man's facial hair chafing their parts. It's true you have not kissed her in a few months but that's just while her skin recovers from you last kissing her with stubble. Things are gonna go back to normal soon, but a ring might speed things along. Hint.
5. Threatening Him
If you don't stop playing video games I'm leaving, she exclaims. She sees the video games as a replacing her, but all you are led to believe is that she doesn't care what the thing is and it's just a test to see if you do what she says. All that button pushing and knob twiddling, of course she is jealous and you rightfully should sell that game system and start using your fingers on her. Even though she's been having headaches lately it's not you it's her. She'd love for you to be able to touch her like you did with your joystick but now's just not the right time. The lack of physical intimacy has nothing to do with you giving into her demand, it's just she needs time to recover from the mental trauma of having almost maybe been replaced by an electronic device.
Do not be misled by prevailing thought and assume your woman has ulterior motives when she makes it seem she wants you to do something for her. No matter how she brings up the issue to you it's important that you honor the request. You would do so for a friend, right? She is your best friend, right? You said so that one time. So treat her as a buddy and keep remembering that doing so has no bearing on your once hot and heavy romance turning into a staid friendship.
