If attracting a woman you actually have something in common with is important to you, if her respecting what you do in life interests you, and you do not want to just be the guy that raises her kids and does not have sex with her, yet do not want to do things you do not want to do, then just do what you do already only more so.
Do Something You Love, Well
Everybody has that thing that lights them up. It could be anything from playing video games to writing novels. If you want a woman who is a cut above, you need to be the same. You do not need to dress funny or learn canned lines, you need to do what you already do but at the highest level. You can date women just by being yourself, but it better be the best self you can be.
Establish and Exude Self-Confidence
Doing something you love and doing it well can do wonders for your self-image. Where before you might have doubted yourself, in situations related to your thing you know you got it handled. With self-esteem from your accomplishment as a foundation you can build it up in other areas. Where you used to be nervous talking to women, you will now have a solid feeling of value and the stakes will be lower.
Be Visible
Within this lifestyle you live where you do that thing you love to do you need to do it in such a way that people know you. You need to meet people in the context of what you do, not a generic social situation. If you love video games you better start doing videos about how much you love them, if you are a writer you need to teach others how to write. Your passion will not be enough, you need to take it to the public. Not only will this introduce you to lots of women who will respect you, but the fact that you are brave enough to do it all in the open is attractive in itself.
Your Passion Comes First
Too many men that were once great fall at the hands of a woman and neither of them are happy about it. Women will clamor for more of your time, they will try to get you to do things, they will pick fights with you. The mistake that too many men make is stopping the thing that attracted women in the first place. Your passion was number one before you met her and it should stay thus if you want her to stay attracted to you or for you to have prospects beyond this one girl.
I do not go to night clubs unless I like the music they are playing and even then I do not approach girls. The relationships I have had that were strongest were with women who saw first hand what I do in life and wanted to be on my team. I never used fancy lines, did not have routines to run on them, it all happened naturally. I was just doing my thing and doing it the best I could and it naturally made me visible and things happened.
What is your passion? If it's a solitary thing, what can you add that puts you in a position to meet more people?
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